Wow... what a month it has been. In such a different way to the rest of the year, which has been all about the hustle, the drive, the DOING. This year I put out my book, I grew my business, I started a new business, I've been renovating a house, I completed my coaching training, I went to several high end masterminds and seminars, traveled all over the world, did a massive amount of personal development, and this is really just a fraction of it. Whew! It's no wonder my soul was crying out for stillness.
This month, it has been all about the BEING. The past 4 weeks I really sat in a quiet place and checked out of most of the usual stuff. Me and my soul just hanging out, chillaxing. Some of it was ultra chill, like docos on Netflix, backyard picnics with the mini me, snuggles with the puppies and hubster. It was getting a facial, going to the beach, reading great books - even a good novel or two, which I hadn't permitted myself to indulge in because I didn't feel like I was learning anything from them.
I'd have to be honest, I felt uncomfortable that I wasn't really achieving anything much. It felt lazy and self indulgent, but that was my ego going "Hey, you're not being important enough! You're not 'busy' enough!" I really needed to check in with what I was doing and why I was doing it. To make sure I was doing it for the right reasons, not because it was what someone else had told me to or its what I thought i should be doing.The Universe doesn't shout, it whispers. So I knew I had to be able to sit still and listen for that little voice to speak to me.
My lessons, while vital to me are maybe not your lessons. But I'd like to share them with you anyway
It is absolutely vital to be the same person across the board and that that person is always authentic and speaking from the soul. At work, with family, with friends, in business, on social media. EVERYWHERE. We so often put masks on or show up differently because we think that's what we're supposed to be or that's what people expect, but guess what - it's not only inauthentic but it's exhausting! It's also more obvious to those around us and in our tribe than we think. Its time to peel back the layers and just be real AF. Which is scary, I know. But there is no growth in a comfort zone. It's time to step out, fully naked which means being 100% ok with who we are and not giving a fuck what other people think. That way, you will be attracting the right kind of people into your business, your tribe, and your inner circle because they are attracted to YOU not some version of you that you're permitting them to see.
Alignment is EVERYTHING. We're in a time where we really glorify the busy, the hustle. But the hustle is meaningless if we're not 100% in alignment with who we are at our core and what we're being called to do. The busy is overrated - in fact its counterproductive! We try to do so much we don't do anything well. We're so focused on squeezing more out of our day we lose the quality. Multi tasking is the biggest have in the 21st century, it DOES NOT WORK. I used to rush even going for a pee because it was taking up too much of my time, like saving 3 seconds was going to be a game changer. All those rush moments accumulated and just caused me to constantly be stressed out. Its hard for me to slow down, and I still have to remind myself constantly just to take a chill pill.
Life is a game. Its fun, its beautiful. Its easy to get caught up in our problems and our stories as if they're part of us but they're just a little part of our past that we often keep dragging into our present because we love playing the victim and they make us feel more special. We have all the power over everything in our lives. We can't control what happens to us but only we can control our reaction and thats all that matters.
Its great to take some space, but doing it for too long is dangerous for an introvert like me. It has been so hard to step back into the spotlight after withdrawing for a whole month! My natural inclination has always been to hide, and all the businesses I've created have made it easy for me to do that. I really have to force myself to step up, then I need to keep that momentum going.
So now that I've had my time of reflection, its now time to level up. To bring a whole new layer to the game! Stare fear in the face and break through some new boundaries.
What does this look like for you? Bring on 2017!